I%26#039;ve had a problem all my life. I%26#039;m 25 years old and I%26#039;ve been self injuring myself since I was a child. I have greatly reduced the cutting due to medication and therapy. I quit for awhile and then started living with an abusive guy and the cutting was out of control. No one would ever guess. I come from a good family with a good income. We%26#039;re the all american family. The thing is, there%26#039;s a guy who I%26#039;m very interested in and he%26#039;s interested in me. The scars are awful. They arent really raised but it looks purple all over my thigh. How can I explain to him what it%26#039;s from without looking like a freak? I have practically stopped doing it. I%26#039;ve done it once this year as opposed to every day like I used to. When I tell him about this, should I worry that he won%26#039;t want to see me?|||Well, he shouldn%26#039;t be seeing your thighs at first!! and, once you get to know one another, and you are sure you are right for one another and you both trust one another then you should talk to him about your past and how you used to self harm an tell him you are very concious about the scars and worried about what he will think.
He should not have a probem with that if he loves you for who you are, you will have a bigger problem with your scars than anyone else because you think about them more.
Try bio oil, this will fade the scarring and ask ANY woman, we all have hang ups about our bodies that are hard early on in a relationship but if someone loves you, they love you and all your imperfections too.
Don%26#039;t worry, enjoy your new relationship and get to know one another and take it slowly, the last thing you want is to jump in head first and realise down the line you have made a mistake as this could start the cycle all over again.
Try some couselling and don%26#039;t be shy of your own imperfections yourself, take others as inspiration who have imperfections that are obvious to the outside world at all times such as facial scarring or burns. Don%26#039;t accept any abusive relationship or anyone who can not accept yo for the person you are.
Listen to Baz Lurman%26#039;s sunscreen song! and relax :)|||My best advice would be to wait to tell this guy until you both know each other more...at the very least you want to wait long enough to know if this guy is really worth sharing something so personal with. If this guy is a good guy he will not think you%26#039;re a freak....because you are not a freak. You%26#039;re simply someone who has struggled with a self-destructive habit....welcome the human family. This thing is just a tiny part of who you are.....let him get to know all the wonderful rest of you first. And if after you get to know him, he still seems like someone worthwhile...then share the more difficult parts with him. Oh, ofcourse you should expect to discover some difficult parts of him as well....he%26#039;s only human too.|||Anyone who really cares for you will be willing to work through your issues with you, There might be a bit of shock when he first sees them, but you could warn him beforehand.|||If he doesn%26#039;t want to see you after you explain your situation, he wasn%26#039;t worth your time anyway.|||You should just tell him that that%26#039;s a part of your past and you have moved on and if he can%26#039;t accept that then move on.|||Just be up front and tell him what your going through if he doesn%26#039;t understand you don%26#039;t belong with him you need someone who will help you get past hurting yourself
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